One of the most important parts of a wedding is the exchange of vows between the two people getting married. As for me, I take these vows very seriously. To me, a vow is a statement of intent and nothing should be said in a vow that you cannot honor. Honoring one’s vows shows one’s integrity, character, and value as a human being.
With that said, Alfred and I decided to write our own vows. I wanted to share my vows to him with the world. I feel like it creates a situation of more accountability. Who knows what the future may hold but I can say, with certainty, I will do everything to honor these vows.
“When we first met, we were both going through tough times and despite this, we crazily decided to plant a seed and hope for the best. I’m so happy we did! At the beginning, we bonded over art and had many a conversation, some of which were about physics.
There are many laws of physics. For example, one law states that any two bodies in the universe attract each other with a force that is directly proportional to the product of their masses and inversely proportional to the square of the distance between the two bodies. According to Newton’s law of Gravitation, the force of gravity tells us the magnitude of this relationship. In other words, the larger each object is, the greater they are, or the closer they are to each other, the greater is the force of gravity between them.
In this situation, gravity is love. Over time, our love has only increased…we’ve become closer and closer yet we’ve achieved an equalibrium while becoming better people together. Our love or gravity has strengthened with every happy and not-so-happy moment we’ve shared together.
Alfred, you are one of the most tremendous people I have ever met. You’re a kind, down-to-earth, caring, giving, nurturing, silly, intelligent, brave, and sweet human being. You’re everything I need in a partner. I was attracted to you since the first moment I saw you (literally). That attraction grew into admiration, pride, happiness, and love. With you, I’ve reached a level of friendship I never thought was possible and I’m so happy, as cliché as it may sound, to say I’m marrying my best friend, my soulmate, my M to M, my Baby to my Ruth, the person who makes me feel like this life is worth it all—you.
I vow, right here, in front of all these people and to God, to honor you with my actions and to always strive to bring you happiness in whatever way I am capable. I promise to endeavor to always speak to you with kindness and compassion…to give you empathy when you need it…and never intentionally hurt you. I promise to touch you because through touch we become closer and to hug you when you need it and when you don’t. I promise to remind you of my love every night before we go to sleep. I promise to release my end of the rope when we’re in a tug of war, knowing that there’s a cost to my winning when it means that you lose. I promise to make time for you, to remember that your ultimate goal is to love me, and I promise to always choose love, and not give up, even if it doesn’t feel like an option.”