All couples have problems. Everyone argues, disagrees, and squabbles. These altercations don’t have to end in disaster. It’s a matter of working it out. If you care for someone and love your relationship, you always will give it a try. It doesn’t take much but it does take effort. to avoid conflict.
Here are 5 ways Alfred and I try to fall back on to keep small arguments from turning into serious issues.
1) Talk It Out
One of the worst things you can do is freeze up and shut the person you claim to love out. IF there is something wrong, talk about it. I know there have been times when either I or Alfred want to just walk away and forget anything happened. But eventually it always comes up. It’s better to express yourself than to let it fester.
2) Walk It Out
Contrary to what I’ve said above, sometimes it is better to just walk away. Take minute and breathe then come back to the situation and resolve it. Give the person you love a little space and things can work out great.
3) Own Your Actions
Admitting to yourself and to your partner that you are being reactionary etc is a valuable skill. You have to bite the bullet, Take a step back and assess the situation. If you realize the way you are acting is unacceptable then adjust your attitude and things will go smoother.
4) Take Responsibility
Make sure to look at yourself while you are pointing the finger. It takes two to tango as they say and I know I usually bear some of the blame.
5) Avoid Placing Blame
Remember your partner is someone who loves you. He/She has your best interest at heart so appreciate them. Don’t let your tongue get the best of you. We all say things we shouldn’t say sometimes, so don’t blame your partner. The most important thing to do is talk your way to an understanding and then forgive. Drop it and don’t use it as a weapon later.
There are so many ways to avoid conflict with your significant other and these are a few of our methods. Try to be mindful about your life and relationship and things should work out. Remember, arguing is not necessarily a bad thing. Just don’t let it get out of hand.