Writing this blog has made me more keenly aware of myself. Writing about my life creates a situation in which I am constantly reflecting on my actions, my words, my goals, my accomplishments, my relationships, my marriage, and my shortcomings. It’s actually kind of been a wonderful thing. On the other side of the token, it can be scary to spend time with myself. Sometimes when I think about that inner voice, that only speaks out in silence, I picture it as the small, insignificant, and helpless child I use to be. That child is still there and it still wonders what’s going to happen when I “grow up.” Being left alone with my thoughts is sometimes unnerving as I battle with feelings of self-doubt and wonder whether or not I am on the right path. But it is also healthy to question yourself while spending time alone.
Don’t get me wrong, I am a very confident person and I have no doubt that my life is chugging along exactly as it should but it’s not a bad thing to re-examine things sometimes. I mean, I like to think I’ve become a fairly good person with some measure of success. I’ve turned out pretty ok and my life is pretty good.
I work at home and spend a lot of time alone. As a result, I’ve become fairly comfortable being in silence with myself. It’s not something everyone is comfortable with but it’s definitely something everyone should give a try. So someday (maybe today) take a bit of time to just be by yourself. Don’t think about anything in particular. Let your mind wander and see what you learn.
Here are a few reasons everyone should spend time with themself.
1) Reboot Your Mind
When you spend time alone, your mind has a chance to clear all the clutter day-to-day life. Whether we like it or not, there are a plethora of triggers throughout the day which can invoke negative emotions. Often, we don’t have the time to deal with these so we brush them aside. A little solitude can go a long way in revitalizing your mentality.
2) See Things Through Your Eyes
Alone time can help us really understand more about ourselves. Solitude, even just a little, can allow you notice the way you think, how you interact with the world around you, and how you judge. Somewhere among all the thoughts speeding through you mind there is you, the individual. Spending time with yourself can help you differentiate you from your thoughts.
A lot of us are social butterflies and there is nothing wrong with it. It’s human nature to be social. But having far too much social interaction in our lives can place us in a situation where we become dependent on others for our happiness. It’s important to not use people as distractions from ourselves. Find happiness in yourself!
4) Improved Relationships
Spending time with myself has helped me understand who I am and what I desire in life. I’ve realized I need art, theater, creativity, travel, and fitness. I’ve also learned my marriage is very important to me…as well as having a warm, happy home. These are just a few things I’ve learned by spending time alone. Recognizing these things has helped me make better choices regarding the people with whom I choose to have friendships. My relationships have become more meaningful and I have a deeper appreciation for my friends. That’s a vastly different perspective then when I was younger.
Being alone also gives me uninterrupted time to spend completing things I need/want to complete. I always feel better when I’ve completed tasks and feel a lot less stressed out. This lends itself well to the other points in this list.